Lucy Di Marino

Lifestyle & Business Consultant

Dreams & Desires Workbook

When it comes to knowing what we want from life and getting clear on how to create it, the questions about how and why we desire and dream of what we do might feel confronting to the conditioned self, however, when this is the case it is that we have simply forgotten our wholeness, how to trust ourselves and how to have faith that the answers we seek are available to us. Beneath our conditioning, before and beyond it, we are whole, we are wise and we are capable. In the moment we feel challenged by considering what we want from life, we might decide it is better not to engage in self reflection, to postpone it to a later date or work to convince ourselves that we are fine as we are when in fact we sense that we want something different or more and ready to start moving towards it.

When we are not living in a way that honours and aligns with our calling in the moment, our sense of purpose, our creative power, our limitless potential and have come to ignore, doubt or refuse our inner wisdom, this manifests in our lives. To choose to move towards something more or different than we currently have, facing the questions that challenge our conditioning allows us to look at what is really holding us back from us following our dreams and desires, how valid our fears are and what we can do about them. This is the process and result of realising that we have what we need to honour our desires and create and receive what we dream of.

We are all of us as equipped for expansion, learning, development and growth. Comfort is found within and when we turn to it for guidance, to our spiritual wholeness and completeness and wisdom, we begin to relax in to ourselves, to relax in to life, trusting ourselves to take wise action, to operate well, to live authentically, with integrity, from a sense of freshness, able to envision new lives, able to open up to considering how we might follow and act on our dreams and desires, taking opportunities we may have missed or refused before and allowing ourselves to become comfortable with change and variation and newness because struggling against the flow of life exhausts us whilst flowing with it is energising.

When we know that we are larger than our fears, that we have the power to overwrite them and the inner wisdom to navigate life from wellness, always towards wellness, getting clear on how we feel about our dreams and desires, how we navigate exploring and realising them feels insightful and expansive as well as simple and fun. We are able to envision what we desire and how we might achieve it as well as get clear on whether we are working to achieve what is not actually for us, if we are ready to let go of what we have or are doing that is not aligned and keep on with what is but is not working to our timeline, having faith and practicing patience that it will come into being at the right moment or that if it doesn’t, we are learning and growing as we need to whilst we work and wait.

Getting clear on what we want is the result of turning towards our innate worth and wholeness and allowing ourselves to be guided by our knowledge of them so that we are willing and able to investigate and challenge what turns us away from them, what blocks us from operating from them, knowing because of them that we have the ability to create lives that are fulfilling and expand us beyond the limitations we have invested in that hold us back.

Our dreams and desires will be unique to us and what looks like fulfilment for one of us will not be for another. Asking ourselves the questions that make way for wise and insightful answers from our inner guidance system is natural, energising and liberating when we allow ourselves to be a channel of awareness, not complicating the information we receive with limited thinking. We all have intuition and instincts and inner wisdom available to lead us in celebration, in health, from knowledge of and faith in our spiritual wellbeing. In the state of clarity, when we are more interested in discovering what is available to us than continuing with the thinking of the conditioned mind, we are able to experience clear vision and insight and knowledge and it is exhilarating. In awareness, we bring into the light all that has kept us feeling in darkness, freeing up and channelling our energy and creativity into wise and aligned action and expansion.

Committing to noticing the resistance we create to our inner wisdom when it conflicts with our beliefs and the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what we can do, what we can’t and why, means setting the intention to be honest with ourselves, patient, open and gracious as we discover where and how we are holding ourselves back. Taking the time to sit down with a pen and paper and open up to our most authentic truth, allowing what comes us to be freely written can help us to realise that all along we have had access to the guidance and support we have been looking for.

We deserve to live lives of peace, presence, purpose and meaning.

Self reflection leads us to discover our power, our beauty, our love for ourselves and life. It leads us to consciously rewrite our programmes so that we feel ourselves in a new vibration. In newness, we entertain fresh ideas, we are open to inspiration, we allow flow, we know peace and connection and purpose, however these manifest for us. We are worthy and deserving of receiving what we desire from our highest truth. When we see that we are refusing what would prevent us from wholly reclaiming and operating from our worth, our potential and our creative power, we are able to invest our time and energy in exploring what we are holding on to that keeps us from living as we want to.

We often deserve better than we give or allow ourselves and at some point it is helpful to understand why. In connection with a higher wisdom, we are interested in what might be and how to get there. When we start working with our innate drive, with the momentum that doing so enables, with our imaginative and creative power, we want to explore life, evolve, transform, be curious. We find in the certainty of our inner wisdom, in alignment with our spiritual health and wholeness, that we are brave and confident until we remind ourselves not to be and noticing this is what moves us towards making new choices.

In openness and awareness, we are able to experience a greater expression of self because we are without limits or expectation, in concert with our intuition and wisdom. When we feel unclear, we can know that clarity is still available to us but that our thinking in the moment is clouded. If we let it pass, we will feel clear again. Knowing this means we stop energising what leads us away from wisdom and truth and the feeling of it.

We do not need to justify our existence, our joy or our good fortune. If we allow ourselves to flow with life, led by our innate intelligence, we experiment, we explore, we evolve. We move beyond the stories we have been told and tell about who we are when they are not helpful, elevating us, true. We realise when something is not working for us and we are gentle as we make living from self knowledge our practice so that we let go of what is preventing us from trying something new, persevere when we are guided to or move on when we are not. We notice how we are investing our energy, no longer identifying with past beliefs about what we want so that we can discover what we truly do. We refocus our attention, reclaim our time, tune in to our internal guidance system and recover our ability to live as is right for us.

Sometimes we have to give up what we have got or are wanting or expecting or even feeling obligated to go after to make space for what is meant for us, for something better. And sometimes we need to dig deep to continue with what is taking longer or more effort to achieve than we thought it would. Sometimes the reward is the growth we experience on the journey and not the outcome we are hoping for because the process alone is evolving us into a truer expression of self. All can be disconcerting and uncomfortable but to find out what life might be, we have to move beyond limited perspectives in order to tune in to what the true self is guiding us to create and receive and achieve.

If we can be open to change, to newness, to the unknown, we will access within ourselves a higher wisdom, connect with a greater awareness, experience an elevated consciousness so that we know the way to becoming more of who we really are, to feeling more whole, more satisfied, more happy, more fulfilled, which occurs when we surrender control to our inner wisdom and allow space for what is intended to unfold, leaning in to the faith that we are capable enough to build the lives we desire and dream of, growing, evolving, transforming as we do.

This means that we become intentional about entering the unknown, comfortable with giving up what is not right for us and our beliefs about what should be and willing to do the work to follow, create and receive what is. The information we seek about how to know our purpose in the moment, our passions, our dreams and desires exists within us and all around us and when we do the work to allow ourselves to drop into a space of stillness and connectedness and awareness, we know that we are always being guided to follow and realise them. When we let go of everything that stands in the way of receiving guidance, we uncover a direct line of communication to an all knowing wisdom that directs us towards discovering the answers we may not have even realised we needed.



Following our own path takes practise and patience and self love. As we come across information, stories, theories and experiences shared by others, it makes sense that we connect with some, are inspired by others, experiment with approaches and teachings, discovering as we do what is possible in life and what feels natural to us and aligned with our own inner guidance. And yet their way is not and does not need to be our way. If we feel intuitively that someone else’s work, claims, beliefs do not resonate with us, we are not obliged to follow them. We are the only people who possess the knowledge of what is right for us and no matter how certain another person is about what is the right way to live or create or evolve, their way is their way and we can trust ourselves to know when our way is different.

When we are comfortable with this, we align with the intelligence within us and let it guide us in how we live and what, if any, methods, techniques and advice we use and follow. Life is about experimentation and when we experiment from the mindset that we can trust in our inner wisdom, we are relaxed in how we approach trying new things, letting go of others, passing by what doesn’t make sense to us in the moment and returning to anything we choose to. We do not have to get everything right all of the time. We can enjoy the path of self discovery and self realisation which is not linear. If we follow our hearts and inner truth as we navigate life from love and curiosity and grace, we can allow it to unfold as we work towards realising our dreams and desires, growing, learning and enjoying the ride.

We can trust ourselves to be open to the information available to us and work with it in a way that enhances our lives and encourages our insights. Self doubt is the result of believing that we are unable to discern helpful from unhelpful guidance and trust ourselves to know when something conflicts with what we know intuitively is right for us. Navigating the information shared by others from the knowledge that we can trust our own path allows us to comfortably review it without the need to change who we are or what we are doing in order to fit in with what doesn’t resonate with us. This frees us from the stress of conflict. We are not here to please others, fit in, shrink ourselves to fit spaces not right for us, that we have outgrown or were never comfortable in. We are here to uncover our truth and share it in the world in the way that our inner wisdom guides us to.

We can decide what we follow, we can choose what we discard, we can know what is right for us, trusting that we have the knowledge within to guide us to recognise when something is or is not helpful for our journey.

It can be challenging for us to acknowledge what we want as well as what we don’t and we often over complicate doing so. We have all heard that if we follow our bliss, if we live our passion, the Universe will open doors for us but if we have limited preconceived notions of what doors these will be or hold firm to ideas about what we should have and want in life rather than what we actually do, then when opportunities arise, when miracles occur, we don’t see them, we refuse them or we aren’t even looking in their direction. When this is the case it will seem as if no doors are opening at all. Once we open up to possibility, once we get clear on the direction we want to be heading in, we find that things work out for us because we are in a flow state, operating from a new energy, vibrating at a new frequency, able to innovate, respond well, take useful action.

When we know what we want and work to get it, we keep tuning in, we keep declaring that we are in trust, in faith, aligned with our truest desires and we find that we are creative, inspired and feel supported by life. When we face challenge or pivot or persevere or move on from something, it is in peace, with confidence, so that no matter what the conditioned mind claims, we continue along with the momentum of our innate drive, supported by our spiritual wellbeing. Evolution is about exploration and experimentation. We do not prove our worth through what we do or achieve or get right. We experience our worth by reclaiming it, operating from it. To be open to what is on offer to us, we have to let go of our ideas about what our lives should look so that we can have fun discovering how aligned and fulfilling they can be.

This means that if we do follow our bliss and live our passion and purpose, if we identify our dreams and desires and go after them, that doors different to the ones we expected will open that lead us down paths other than we had decided on. Struggling for something we do not truly want creates tension and we feel like we are battling life and failing at it. When we drop our expectations, our limitations and widen our vision, our perspective shifts so that we are able to notice what is on offer, ask ourselves questions about what we desire and consider how we might make our dreams happen. We are able to embrace the possibility that our best lives may look completely different than we thought they would and trust ourselves to create them despite what we have been programmed, conditioned or taught to accept or go after.

Following our dreams and desires leads us to express our innate joy and love. This is what satisfies us, this is what enriches our lives, this is what leads us to growth and transformation and success because we are showing up in ways that are authentic and signalling to an intelligence within and all around us that we are ready to create and receive what is right for us. We are aligned with our creative power, channelling guidance and inspiration, in flow. We find the way that is right for us in the moment and doors do open, we do achieve and succeed but not necessarily in the way that others have done or as we have been conditioned to expect or programmed to believe but in the ways that resonate with our truth, our dreams, our desires.

In this way we let go of expectation which allows us to be present, aware that we are the creators of our experience, able to change our minds and think and feel differently in every moment, to experience clarity, let go of ideas about what should happen or who we should become no matter how long we have invested in them so that we are ever more connected with the loving intelligence of life and who we really are. When we do, we are open, trusting, clear and rather than seeking assurances and guarantees and recognition to affirm our intuitive insights and instinctive action, we are conscious in our approach, joyfully aware of our power, open to the options and opportunities that are available to us, that we are creating and seeking and looking out for.

When we live this way, we co create alongside the energy of life, harmoniously bringing in to being what we want from a place of authentic realisation and understanding about what is right for us, gracefully navigating challenge and change. We are patient when things are not perfect, knowing we have the wisdom to do our best in responding. We do not get distracted by what others are doing but are open to what sparks inspiration and our imagination and we celebrate their successes and achievements without needing to strive for them ourselves. We lift the weight of failure from our shoulders and set down our illusions about what we should be doing and achieving and aspiring to because we want only to follow our inner guidance and see where it leads us.

When we think about our potential, often our focus falls on to what we believe we are able to do based on what we have done before and what we have been told we can expect to achieve in life. However, connecting with our true capacity for achieving, learning, evolution and growth actually happens when we move beyond who we think we are and what we are capable of and open up to something far greater. The limits we apply to our lives are often thought created rather than fact based and as we create our experience of life according to the beliefs we hold about it, changing our minds and transforming them can lift these limits and allow us to expand beyond them and drastically change the way we view and respond to our circumstances.

We are creatures of imagination and past a certain age we use our imagination to keep ourselves operating within the confines of our programming, conditioning and habitual reactions and patterns. When we begin to us our imagination to play again, to tell new stories and experience new states of being, we begin to explore who we might be and what we might do and we realise the power we hold to create new lives. We are whole and wise. When we are operating from clarity and insight, we feel it. When we aren’t, we feel it. When we allow our thoughts to flow, when we become aware of how we think about them, we notice how we are operating, we become aware of the fundamental beliefs about life that are driving us and we get to choose to change them when they do not serve us in living well.

A simple affirmation that can lead us in this is: I trust in the power of my spiritual truth, in the loving intelligent energy of life that I am a part of and that is guiding me at all times. If we also affirm: I am open to guidance, we are open to being shown the way, to accessing a wisdom, a consciousness, an awareness outside of and beyond the limited mind. When we commit to following what we intuitively know is right for us even when it diverts us from what we have or thought we wanted, we experience what feels magical and mystical and miraculous, we get out of the way and let ourselves be moved by life, carried by life, inspired and supported by life.

Inspiration leads us beyond limited perceptions of self and concepts of our potential. When we allow ourselves to fall out of the personal, the limited, the constricted and contracted and in to the limitless, we become inspired. Here we are guided to act and create and live in ways that align with our truest expression of self, our highest awareness. There is a Divine intelligence that creates, powers, guides and loves us always that we are a part of and able to give ourselves over to. When we tune in, when we align, when we raise the frequency of our being to love, health, wholeness, we awaken to our potential to do the impossible, to make our dreams reality, to be driven by desire, trusting in opportunity, open to possibility, no longer waiting for proof before we experience, no longer justifying in order to receive, no longer holding back from what we truly desire, no longer allowing the expectations of the limited mind to turn us away from all that is on offer to us.

Take the time to reflect on the questions in the Dreams & Desires Workbook, gently allowing yourself to write down the answers that surface for you without reconsidering them, doubting or judging them. What we are concerned with here is moving beyond what we know from the limited mind so that we can explore who we really are, what we really want and what we might become, create and experience by doing so.

Dreams & Desires Workbook